It is easier said than done, but having the courage to stand by convictions of truth that you know you are speaking when surrounded by people who find your truths to be uncomfortable or have an agenda to shut you up and shut you down makes life even harder than it is already.
When I was in my 20s, I didn't have the courage of conviction that I have now in my 50s. In my 20s, when I tried to speak about anything that had happened to me, I was told that I was either lying or I deserved it and I didn't have the courage of conviction to stand up for my truth. It was too difficult because I was too young.
However, even now, over 30 years later, when I am in my 50s, I have yet to find someone to just say that what happened to me was wrong, I didn't deserve it, and to say that he/she is sorry it happened to me.
I have spoken to friends, co-workers, therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, family, etc. I went through a revolving door of being in and out of psychiatric hospitals and on and off of psychiatric meds. In all of this so called "help", nobody has ever said that I was not to blame for what happened to me. Nobody.
I was speaking to the "school therapist" at the college where these 4th Amendment rights atrocities occurred to me. That so-called "therapist" (a Quack as far as I am concerned) never once ever said that whatever happened to me was not my fault. I used to wonder about that, and then as I got older and studied liability law, I figured it out.
The school-appointed therapist will never tell you that you are not at fault. If she (or he) does, then it exposes the school to liability. She is there to insulate the school from liability. She does not give a crap about the students who are there for genuine help. It is a big scam, and I fell into it thinking that these people actually were there for me. They weren't.
